Talk to people

A psychological  study found that same-sex strangers felt increasing affinity towards each other, after each conversation they had. Don’t be hesitant to talk to people : if you’re genuinely interested or curious about others, they’re more likely to reciprocate those feelings.

Go to the restaurant

Offer yourself a three-course dinner at a restaurant : When you go on a date with yourself, you’re sure to go somewhere you actually like and you don’t have to wait around for others to decide.

Attend meetings, lectures

There are a lot of possibilities, so it’s impossible not to find something to your liking. You’ll meet new people and you may make new friends.

Watch a film

Watch a movie alone or call some friends to go with you—it doesn’t matter. What’s important is you immerse yourself in an interesting story that’ll erase your gloomy thoughts.


Focusing on the needs of others steers your mind away from sad thoughts. It’s impossible to feel lonely when you’re  helping the less fortunate ( and this  will also fill you with immense gratitude)

Adopt a pet

A furry cat or dog will cheer you up. The playfulness of pets ( even the trouble  to  train them) will make you forget about your troubles

Read a book

Not a book on how to stop feeling lonely because reading self-help when you’re feeling miserable will make just you feel worse. Read a good novel instead and lose  yourself in a good story

Take a bath

Take a nice, long, and relaxing bubble bath  so you can enjoy your alone time without  drowning in self-pity.  You can also take  a glass of red, chocolates and magazines with you

Go out for a walk or for a quick run

Running is scientifically proven to make you happier, but  even 30 minutes of walking can instantly lift your mood

Get coffee

Go to a coffee shop and start a conversation. Don’t worry if you’re bad at small talk, because chances are you won’t see that person again.

Put on your favourite songs

While listening to your favorite song, you can dance  If you feel lonely because you’re actually alone,  take this chance to do the things you can only do when we’re on your own,, like dancing naked or jumping on the bed. This may give you a good laugh.

Take photos

Get a camera, then go out and start taking beautiful pictures of things around you. A sunset, a barking dog, or a laughing baby—filling your life with beautiful things can take your mind off of loneliness.

Look through old photos

Prepare some snacks or some tea and canapés and recall the good old days with a friend, or a relative. Remembering your moments caught on camera will fill you with nostalgic memories and drive away loneliness.

Go to the gym

Attend classes for any fun exercise The exact exercise doesn’t matter: what is important is to get yourself moving, while trying something new in the supportive environment of a group class.

Start a gratitude journal

Write down five things you are grateful for each night before you go to bed.   When you don’t know what to be thankful for, just write what you feel.

Plan a holiday

Planning a great holiday vacation will beat loneliness. Looking up flights, hotels and so on  will boost your spirits and steer your mind off your negative thoughts. You don’t really need to book a trip, sometimes the act of planning for one is enough.

Create something

Having nothing to do makes you bored,  so keep yourself occupied! Try a new recipe, prepare a cake,  finish a DIY project. Or make yourself a delicious meal, eaten by candle light.

Clean out your closet

And donate all the clothes you don’t feel happy  and healthy in to charity.

Practice JOMO

Social media is helpful, but it could be negative depending on how you use it. If you keep scrolling on Facebook, whattsapp  instead of talking to whoever’s with you, or taking a picture of everything you eat instead of just savoring it, then it’s time to experience the  joy of missing out  (JOMO –  the opposite of FOMO, which is the  fear of missing out. That way you can also enjoy alone time, without the need to be “in the know,” unplugging from emails, text, social networks, and events in an effort to embrace solitude and cultivate your  relationship to your own self.

…. what else?





  1. Take your little dog for a walk. Take a train ride and flirt with a stranger. Connect with an old friend you’ve been meaning to look up. Drink a bit too much wine ( don’t drive) and enjoy a gentle period of frivolity. Treat yourself to a bit of retail therapy. Help someone less fortunate than you. Keep fighting the good fight. 🙏🌹🌈💐🥳

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      1. Very kind of you Luisa. Your suggestions are all good and worthwhile pursuing. Hope all of the recommendations are brightening your day and will brighten your week.. I have a friend who has SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder because of the lessening daylight) and she has found that buying a special light that simulates daylight has helped her over the years

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  2. Dear Luisa, you take up a subject which is very common in our modern society. Sadly.
    I read a lot, always have. It is like entering other worlds and thoughts.

    Would love to volunteer but the virus put a halt for now.

    Coffee now, would you come with me and have coffee ☕️..

    I do have regular telephone friends in various countries. That is also stimulating. 🤗.



    1. Today’s reblogged post dates back to a few years ago and I realize that nowadays, with the pandemic, many of those tips cannot be put into practice.
      I must say that this blog and my friends from all over the world help me a lot (do you think that I am suffering from FOMO?)
      Lots of love 😘

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  3. A run (or walk) is actually proven to be beneficial, not just because of the exercise, but according to neuroscientist Andrew Huberman, the forward motion alone (visually seeing things move) helps reduce anxiety. Loved this post. And I’ll need to practise JOMO more. Thanks for sharing!


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