Who is non Guilty of this Vice? D. Johnson – abridged
Valérie Trierweiler, the dismissed mistress of the French president, dealt with her jealousy in her memoir Thank You for This Moment, an account of her brief reign as President François Hollande’s première dame,
Hollande had fathered the four children of his long-time companion, another professional politician, Ségolène Royal. They had already split when he was elected in 2012, and his new mistress Valérie Trierweiler was installed as his official mate, with much discussion about how she should be referred to. Those protocol issues were especially troubling to some Americans because Hollande was planning a White House visit, and a leader bringing an unmarried first lady presented a seating problem at the official dinner. Hollande prevented the problem by announcing right before the trip: “I’m making it known that I have ended the life in common which I shared with Valérie Trierweiler”.
In her vengeful but regretful memoir, Trierweiler makes herself seem to be the second Mrs. de Winter and Royal is her Rebecca. She could not bear the idea of Hollande’s past relation with Royal or Royal’s moral upper hand as mother of his children, and she didn’t bother to dissemble her socially disapproved, uncool emotion: jealousy.
One “Relationship Counselor” online lists some common occasions where people may recall experiencing jealousy, including the one making Trierweiler suffer: “Your partner seems more loyal and committed to their children from a previous marriage than to you.” She adds a number of others, among them:
- · “Your parents were busy with their work or other activities and didn’t give you as much time and attention as you wanted.”
- · “The birth of a new sibling suddenly took all the attention away from you and was focused on the new baby.”
- · “A parent seemed to like another sibling more, or another sibling was better-behaved, did better in school, or was more successful socially.”
- · “A friend gets better grades and gets into a better college.”
- · “Your neighbor has a nicer house than you or buys a very expensive car.”
- · “Your co-worker gets the promotion you applied for.”
- · “Your best friend marries someone with a lot of money or who is much better-looking than your spouse.”
- · “Your partner spends too much time at work, on sports, on the computer, or on hobbies and not enough time with you
- ……… and so on